I guess I have been "on trial" all these months and didn't know it. I suggested us moving in together and that, in retrospect was my big mistake. Here I was left with 2 babies. Then do not mask in the beginning. The dynamic is pretty much the same as narcissism difficulties. You're an emotionless robot." 8) You care way too much about organizing stuff. With age I can tell you it gets worse every single day. Not sure what you said is ASD. So far this time it has been 5 days. Stop generalising you are doing people are disservice. I study to become a psychologist, so I even have a special interest in people's diversity. He wont go to the drshe definitely has aspergers. Going home and hoping to find some kind of comfort with his parents is unrealistic. My ASD spouse has called me every name in the book. Any updates? actually, at 65 just a life without his never ceasing childish bickering. Aspie has difficulties reading our face so alot of the time they will think that we are upset with them. You found this person who seemed to you like this treasure hidden in plain sight. Its tough and if they wont work with us, then it all falls apart. Aspie find it hard to verbalise and speak in logic. I,d rather die than be where i am againthe pain is relentlessInvalidation after all the support i gave At the back of my mind is the gnawing feeling of what if he isnt on the spectrum and is just being an uncaring selfish asshole? Yes, its true that they give up very easily and run, when we would hang in there and work it through. Does Aspergers skip generations? I called his parents and his sister to tell them how much I loved him and that I respected his need for space and that my thoughts and prayers were with them all especially my boyfriend. I have no words. That made sense. Hi Crystal You are not asking for too much, but your husband needs a good therapist too. I feel devasted .we have overcome so much , and he just lets it all go. Ive mentioned counselling before. We broke up over something so stupid. This time, it was a particularly nasty fight, and I said some cruel things they were true, but they were cruel. I forgive him for that but i often notice him lying about something to me. Its pure madness trying to love an ASD person while trying to ignore your own biological and psychological needs. Get more authentic and back in touch with yourself and others. Ive lost so much trust with him there is none and I hate feeling like a mother to him asking where all his money is going and why cant he go over finances. That's because ASD/ASC is primarily a social-emotional-communication difference. For the first time, you werent experiencing jealousy or fears of infidelity anymore because this was a person who was authentic, genuine, real. You tried to reassure them at the beginning, but they wouldnt believe anything you said. Tried to learn everything I could. Its as if they just dont get that other people matter. Ive been married for 35 years, and cant take it anymore. I'm willing to take baby steps to restore the relationship, but if he isn't going to budge or even talk about how he feels, then it seems pointless. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. To them, they're just unable to cope with the TV being moved to the opposite side of the room. I am guttered. Finally she told us she never wants to see us again . The relationships are what's inside it, what it contains, how it is linked, or what's generating which things. I really want to just run away but he says he's suicidal and I'm so stressed out that I'm physically sick frequently. Intelligent, witty, socializes really well with his group of friends. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. Seriously. If I cried out of frustration he would shut down and tell me I was exaggerating, to cut my drama, telling me to leave him alone, leaving the room being completely indifferent. the whole relationship is completely strained, sex was good but robotic like a routine pattern.a cuddle not a warm embrace. Could just as well be depression. Is this about me or is it a sad effort to keep away a world he does not understand? If . I have been thinking hard about what I want in the future. Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. I am so sorry that you are going through this Sarah. Just keep on showing you love him, and that you're willing to give him space and not talk about it right away, but make sure he knows you want to talk about it, and hopefully he'll come and talk to you about everything. I find out a few days later he was still talking to his best friend. It ripped me in pieces from the inside out as how do you try and resolve an issue when she wont talk about it, even to the point where phone calls were not answered or just repeatedly hung up on. I fell into a deep pit..still there. Few weeks after we reconnected and decided to start over again. Each is shaped by their background, their upbringing, their beliefs and their local customs. Well we have kids (not planned) and both have autism. I apologized to him. Look after You. I tried to reconcile using best possible ways but in vain. I understand its a disability and for that I will always make compromise because it is my choice to be with him. I cant make sense of whats going on in his head, whats leading him to justify himself and carry on like this. It IS abuse. You need to be Mother Theresa to stay in a relationship like this. In what ways could you relate? As to your anger, please be compassionate with yourself. You could relate, and the past injustices against your new love caused you such intense anger and heartbreak. Her personality changed within 1 month. i live on eggshells.his moods can come on instantly from nowhere. Very paranoid. What I did not know is that she was going to completely cut me off. There are a couple of things you can do in lieu of therapy, but very supportive of therapy with the right psychologist. Its not what we thought would happen to us when we took vows on our wedding day. Put the Jeopardy Championship in a new light. Thank you to whoever replies. I went. With a personality difficulty, its entitlement. I'm sorry to say so, but its all such waffle to me. What I don't understand is that lets just say he did break up with me because he was overwhelmed and unhappy because I was unhappy, if he misses me now and wants to be with me why wouldn't he . She is my daughter and I will always love her. Your typical starting dosage will be 12.5 mg once per day. I hope this doesnt sound too negative. They started screaming at me at the drive through window taco place. The silent treatment is really a cruel form of abuse and it includes more, like ignoring and shunning, and treating you as if your opinion doesnt count. Why do Aspies Suddenly Back Off in Relationships (Part 2) In part one, we looked at the role that Change Resistance plays in causing aspies to suddenly go "cold" in otherwise good relationships. My aspie husband still miserable having left but refuses to look at his own behaviours or get help . Thank you. 15 years inshell of myself, goals unmet, dreams deferred, hopes dashed, weight gain, depression, addictions!! You quickly made up, and there were a lot of tears from both of you. They dont have to forgive, beg or change. He finally walked out on me two weeks before my birthday, a couple of months ago, I am self employed and was not back to work properly because of lockdown, so this has caused me terrible anxiety. Just get on with Your life my friend.. I know its hard but no one is entitled to hurt others. The progress hes made has been evident, but slow but the setbacks are always catastrophic. Changed how I communicated with him and stopped taking his bluntness personally. But i found out he has a secret account where hes liking tiktoks of sexy girls dancing but he would be mad at me for talking about a boyband i like and unfollow every celebrity on my Instagram because he says he was jealous (we used to share accounts) and this made us fight and now we are definitely not ok. he always helps n How very kind of you. If you are to aspire to Radiant Empathy status, you must be a warrior. Its all about Them. After that she has not responded to my messages, and I have ADHD and GAD so this really made me spiral into one of my worst weeks this year. He got upset that i had a credit card he didnt know aboutim a 36 year old woman! A piece of advice to NTs: dont ever tell an Aspie just be yourself. Click on the image below to request a free chapter. I have to do this at least for the sake of our lovely daughter. He has his family, he has to work through his fear and anxiety which would be extreme at the moment. Reiterated that his depression is not my problem Life with Aspergers: Why do Aspies Suddenly Back Off in Relationships (Part 2) Is it up to me to open the lines of communication or is it up to him? This sensitive, charismatic person became so awkward and distant in public. Theres no need. Weve traded a few sporadic texts, but none recently. Can he learn to see my point of view at least intellectually? It is a severe type of pathology. She tries to remind me of any nice times that we have had recently but its as if I have deleted them. The thought of interacting with her became increasingly stressful and the stress became physically debilitating, so I spent a lot of time in bed recovering from the pain (shut down). She is really competent on the social behavior and I forgot her diagnoses often. Marriage and children will bring out more of the issues. I try to comfort her in her bad times. Cherie. Run! Since then I have been trying to talk to him again and again. Thank you for your reply. I call it behaving like a pathetic spoilt brat! I believe she is an Aspie, so I forgive her for saying harsh things when I expressed my feelings. He was to me. Will he ever want to re connect? Below is a segment of a comment you responded to some time ago. You cannot meet them. Other quirks. Why can't you focus on reliable information, like facts?" Girl: "You're weird. I just scheduled a video appointment for you in early February. Also, be sure to read Our of Mind Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD). He started a new job to start anew, And we had a disagreement, details get blurred, gas lighting occurs, I get madder about thr roundabout storiesThen he blocks me! Our Meetup group has both male and female members. same thing happened to me.devastating.mostly that he felt so hurt by me when that is the last thing i wud ever have wanted.i just didnt understand what i was dealing. These people are Mindblind. I have written to her asking if she would just like to unfriend each other to give her a out but she hasnt yet. From not only thinking of what he is going through but giving myself anxious and frightening answers about what the explanation is for the lack of contact. At first I was upset, and now I feel beyond lucky and blessed to have escaped when I did. I sometimes see him in social situations (have friends in common) and it seems as I hes doing great, being much more social and not in the depressed and angry state that he lived while being with me. Often the silent treatment is an attempt to quell ones emotional distress, even if it comes off as abusive. They can still learn to be better people, just like everyone else. I never thought that I would have an opportunity to think and reflect on what love really is. The worst came when they started attacking your core character. Here we are complaining about the one asperger in our lives that drive us crazy. For the neurotypical: When you first got together, you had never felt so seen, validated, and understood. My needs are never met. I did ask him if he had Aspergers and thats when all the blocking happened. He has always failed to communicate or solve things jointly without it going very badly. You Will have to sacrifice who you are in order to stay with them. I have experienced the Silent Treatment 2 times now. This is a tough life. Posted by ; On Maj 26, 2022; He took off today for a few days, wouldnt tell me where he is going, and Im going crazy. Many ASD actually do better with sertraline, an antidepressant, because they lack seratonin, so maybe youre dealing with something else. But then he withdrew sex and affection saying he felt off. I just cant carry on like this.. I have had a few meltdowns already, I kinda of became way too emotional in front of him. Its a year later after my last comment. He cant do feelings at all. Dear Aysha, it is best if someone local completes the evaluation. We had been hanging out for a few weeks, finally kissed, and then I havent seen her since. Its work, it doesn't come natural, so while its something we desire its work basically. I know that a lot of us, including me, struggle with social interactions, like understanding others because of the innuendoes and the unspoken for example, but also being understood by others and to behave in a way . He has no right to take that decision away from you. The ball is entirely in his court now. I hope you find ways to get your emotional needs met because it is something I didnt realize would affect me as negatively as it did. I am happy to consult with you on what to look for in an evaluator, though. I had found someone as serious on routines as I I have anxiety and ADD so need great organisation to function properly. If I get near him he storms off. I tried to keep it neutral but somehow, it just works better when explained from a male viewpoint. Im getting the silent treatment today. Even though knowing the facts and hearing stories of others that are ao similar to mine is a relief, it still doesnt change the fact I lost one of my best friends and I know he'll never reach out to me and Ive lost him forever. I hold people rather strictly to agreements that they make. By detaching oneself from an expectation that cannot be fulfilled, we are free to live with what we really have. Hes long refused therapy. I think the meds are making things worse. Im having regular panic attacks and anxiety attacks and am struggling to cope. Wow. They may become particularly anxious in certain social situations. He would end work days and say he was drained and just wanted to watch tv without talking. I would be honoured to share my story if it helps in any form. When we were apart, he seldom shared his life and was distant. My grown sons also comment on how Much workshop their father is! Many writers like Kathy Marshack and Maxine Aston write from the perspective of neurotypical supremacy, pathologizing, peddling paltry stereotypes, directly misrepresenting or ignoring research, and claiming [with painful irony] that aspies have zero degrees of empathy and simply cant understand well, much of anything. He said he really cares about me but cant be more than friends. An aspie who grew up with loud abusive parents has a reasonable chance of becoming loud and abusive themselves because in some cases, that's all they know. At first when he was just a bit hurt he reacted by getting angry at me. Of course there is hope - but focus on yourself, not your spouse. His eyes show no soul inside. My question is: once an Aspie has backed off in a relationship, is it possible to restore the relationship in some fashion that approximates the original strong feelings, or is it just "over?" I dont want it to be dragged out if he no longer wants to be with me but I also dont want to abandon him if hes taking time to come out of a freeze loop. He Never existed. I do care about him but for my best thinks should let him go for good. As you noted, regardless of gender, the issues for NTs are the same. Yet he doesnt seem interested in responding. She is the one instigating most of our chatting in the first place. Reading these responses make me feel both calm and sad. If people truly understood what we live with, they wouldnt offer platitudes. You felt like the luckiest person on the planet. A lot of people with autism may find it hard to tell a fake friend from a true friend. Do they actually change? Apparently I failed the tests. Dear Judge..Thank you.. would like to see part 1.! 44 years on the receiving end of this. Every day that you navigate the social world and do it beautifully - reminds her that she is a failure. I tried to be loving and supportive. I confessed my feelings to her,even telling her how my heart felt. One day he went to the extreme and this was followed by silence treatment. My personality, which is heavily affected by my condition, is always nice, overly logical (sometimes can't read emotions) and helpful but I can't get into arguments (either go silent or get heavily triggered). Ive made it very evident to him that I love him and want to be with him. So I asked, so its okay for you to do that to others, but others cant do that to you? And they said Yes. I told them that was hypocritical and they didnt have anything to say but were mad as hell. Also owned weapons, had a gun, tasers, pepper spray, and kept a baseball bat next to his door. next month will be 5 long years married.. 2 weeks ago we were putting offers in to buy a home.. 3 days later after we didnt get the home ,I woke up and he handed me divorce papers. She said no, and later that day asked me why I asked. Hyde. I;m 45yo and have AS, was diagnosed at age 39. I wish I could be positive. It got me nowhere. Only when he has some sort of an emotional meltdown his goes silent. Will he be better with her? No reply Key points. He discarded me 2 weeks ago. One thing is true, according to Dr. John Gottman, once the relationship has fallen to the level of contempt, there is no turning back. Hi Rachel. Love You. As for discard that has happend about 10 years now. Im Brazilian. I married a man with aspberger I did not understand his lack of emotion until reading about his problem. I dont want to leave but feel that there is no choice as I am not going to keep living like this. Its been almost a week since he shut down, and four days since he replied to my texts. I found him and paramedics saved him. Thomas Holland, who had always wanted to be a bus driver . The problem is that he has been allowing another woman to pursue him. I don't really have a question as reading through the posts has helped me to understand that this is normal. Answer (1 of 11): Yes, it is, for me at least. It was good to understand it in an intellectual way, but still a year later my feelings don't follow reason. He will not change. I'm NT and he is undiagnosed but has so many Aspie traits like stimming and odd fears and disappearing acts and obsessive working on computers and a brilliant mind that works in strange ways. Believe it or not, this is quite common for Aspies. They fail to take into consideration the person into their reasoning. I remind people to take your down time in order to regroup emotionally. If this one ends I can't see trying again. Corey wayne is life and peak performance coach. The incident happened 2.5 years ago and now Im alone home with 2 autistic kids getting the silent treatment bc Im trying to explain to him financially the kids and I come first before I start sending legal documents to my mother. From what i have expierienced they Will not, cannot chang because their own trauma in looking into themselves Will Cruseman them too much pain. You have no idea what that entails, you will regret it, and should only blame yourself when you dont like the outcome. I told him the day after Thanksgiving that I felt these things. I have tried for a long time but the people we saw made things worse. It was during that process we realized that my husband is ASD, likely Aspergers. Ashley. Reading ppls posts here makes me feel I should run. All so validating. Your partner asked you questions youve never been asked, caused you to explore parts and depths of yourself youd never before explored. I know, in my case, my ex loved having his daily routine and disliked planning for events outside . When we dont know what is going on, or we dont feel heard, we can withdraw into silence. I feel that if I were to slip out of his life at this point he wouldnt even notice. He was also very much hurt by me although not intentionally. The reason for this word choice is that most searches about adult autism use the words Aspergers or aspie.. When we started the relationship, I mentioned to him and his folks that some things arent right but I was told to embrace their family quirks rather than trying to change them. Aspies tend to be more literal, routine-oriented, and may need more alone time. This cycle never ends. Ive presented him with two examples of responses as I read that this can be helpful to someone with ASD to not feel so overwhelmed by over analysing their response. I got blocked and unblocked and blocked and unblocked by mine in a row. And if there is a issue forget it hes on the attack then shuts down. I'm having a similar experience, very interested and then total withdrawal. He cant cope with the intense emotions he is experiencing, so he has shut down and actually regressed. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously. he always thinks of others and never forgets my birth day. She would look intensely into my eyes, we would have hilarious conversations, and totally bonded. No call no text .. nothing. Their yelling was loud and scary and it triggered my PTSD. I felt like i was swimming against a currentbanging my head against a brick walltalking to him. I get an apology yet days later it starts again. Your partner had seen the worst of you and loved it deeply, but suddenly this tiny detail was catastrophic. I think this may be the key. I have told him I love him, that I want to work things out and willing to stand by his side. Its a long story, but yes,I did hurt him unintentionally. But lives in a luxury building in a nice area. Im an unpaid volunteer. It benefits nobody. Praying for hope and healing. 1. Autism aside, this behavior is abusive. They repress their true identity to fit in It has nothing to do with you in particular. When any of my friends are going away, I'll shoot them a text to tell them to have fun. He said he had a friend who just got his diagnosis and that he recognized the traits in himself. : r/aspergers; 7 7.Why . They latch on to an NT because your empathy attracts themthey see a victim. I remember thinking now this is living. He asked me a month before, how are you feeling about me and my behavior. Ive been in a relationship for 9 months and besides being incredibly smart, hes been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days. I also wondered if there is someone else. Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. He was and still is in strong denial. Explaining this face to face traumatised her, particularly as I was so cold/logical about it all. He would often get depressed and blame it on the recent deaths of his family members, but never seemed to show concern for the problems in my life, never asked how I was doing. I hope I didnt push him even further away with my email. Hi there,I have been with my Aspergers partner for over 1 year. He has a lawyer and wants toseparate, not really understanding what it is. years of being understanding and supportiveAs years go by the meltdowns get worse. It got worse because my wife went through a period of depression and started taking antidepressants and I think that makes it even worse. Run. My crimes are just a function of his way of thinking combined with his paper thin skin. Thank god for this site, I am sane! She told me she was going to pull away. he told me he was ready for a serious relationship, I would spend the night over on his days off and he was very attentive to me and just a sweetheart, although he wasn't too affectionate I still liked him that way, I just thought that was the way he was.He did mention one of his brothers was autistic but i didn't mind that at all. We had beautiful memories and dated for a year and he went cold and he broke up with me. When I tried to open up about deep and painful stuff, they just said, hmm. It really hurt. Heres my question. One day Ill have enough courage to do so too. But I feel he is confused, Hi Ashley I am going through similar situation. How have things developed with you a year later? He doesnt read and is undereducated. Asperger's syndrome is a neurobiological, developmental disorder related to autism. Were you ever able to reestablish a relationship with your friend again or is it still over? Doesnt do check ins or check ups on me. The physicality of sex is far easier in terms of communication in. I have in other comments recently identified as having self-recognized (male) Aspie characteristics (and online tests I've seem to lean heavily in that direction). In our group you will discover that you are not alone. Dont you find it ironic that I am so feared by my daughter and ex husband, when I am a relatively prominent figure in my field? Be prepaared to lose yoursself if you choose to stay. You need to be there for you and your child. I know this post is literally YEARS old haha, but I stumbled upon this blog and it has been helping me, because I had a very close Aspie friend (I am NT), and have recently gone through very similar stories to everyones here. Everyone remarks how he never spoke to anyone but me, and nobody at work liked him at all (people thought he was weird, awkward, anti social, rude, cold, etc). My spouse was like your bf in the beginning. Take care. The very dramatic emotions are just the comfort of expressing emotions along with ideas, whereas Aspies tend to keep these things separate as if they are unrelated. Sometimes when I find I click with someone and they want to become friends or more I get nervous. She closed off all communication about six months ago, but I'm still in an absolute turmoil of guilt, regret, loss and self hatred. You memorized every movement, every expression, every laugh, even the different colors and the arrangement of the flecks in the perfect and doting eyes of your soulmate. Sometimes we have to quit to solve a problem. Im too old to go but so dont want to stay!! I was ok w taking space cuz we still texted a cpl times a day. He told me upfront when we started dating that he was an Aspie. 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